Special Thanks

Last week I posted about my MeToo moment and the support was overwhelming and amazing. It’s always nerve-wracking and scary to post something so vulnerable. I was nervous that I would be judged. I was wrong and this is my thank you to everyone who reached out, who called me, who texted me. You showed me how much love is in the world and how much you love me. Your support while I get through this makes every bad day easier, it makes my darkness feel brighter.

This is also a special thank you to those who emailed me with your own stories. I know that cannot have been easy. Just remember, you do not owe anyone your story. It is yours to tell and do not ever feel rushed or pressured to tell it. You will when you a ready.

I got some questions asking how you can be there for a friend or family member who has been affected by sexual assault so I’m going to address some things that I think are important. I am no means a professional and if you have any questions, RAINN.org has some great resources to check out.

  1. acknowledge their pain.  – Do not try and empathize.
  2. Ask them what they need from you – this can be hard because you want to try and give advice or help them but don’t know how. The best way is to say “what can I do for you, what do you need from me?” this allows them to tell you specifically what they need.
  3. Patience – this is the hardest part because healing and recovering takes time and is different for every person. There will be bad days, and some of them can last a week, a month or just a few hours. It can vary depending on what triggers it. You have to be patient and caring when this happens and this can be hard because you do not fully grasp or understand what is going on and you don’t like watching your loved one in this bad spot. Being patient is crucial to supporting them and helping them.
  4. Love them – this seems so obvious but the biggest fear of revealing our sexual assault is being judged and shunned. Showing them that you still love them, still want to be with them and hang out with them helps alleviate this fear.

I made a playlist that will hopefully inspire you to be a bomb friend and supporter.

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Black History Month

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Today is the start of Black History Month and I wanted to do something a little different this month. This month I want to spotlight different women who were important women to Black History, with some being specific to the in the United States.

These women were pivotal people in their area of expertise, with the Civil Rights Movements and broke barriers wherever they went.

I wanted to spotlight women because they are often the forgotten people in all the stories. We hear of NASA sending someone to the moon, but we’ve only just learned of Katherine Johnson and her work towards making the launch successful. I want to say thanks to my friends who responded to my messages and gave me the names of some of these women.

Here are a list of women I am going to spotlight:

  • Ida B. Wells
  • Wangari Maathai
  • Ruthie Bridges
  • Fannie Lou Hammer
  • Marian Wright Edelman
  • Lorraine Hansberry
  • Bell Hooks
  • Hattie McDaniel

I’m excited to launch these spotlights and I hope you follow along this month. If there are any women you think should be spotlight, please let know!

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Last Night’s MeToo Moment

*Please note the following blog post talks about sensitive issues that may be a trigger for some people* Additionally, due to the nature of this post, any comments that are derogatory, inflammatory or rude will be deleted.

I initially had a different blog post scheduled for today but after last night’s episode, I decided I wanted to address the episode and my response to it.

For those who watch The Bachelor, and myself included, I enjoy it for its frivolous nature, the crazy dates and ridiculous drama. Yesterday, on The Bachelor, contestant Caelynn opened up to Colton about being raped during her sophomore year of college.

While this was happening, I was speechless, heartbroken and devastated. I commend Caelynn’s bravery for going on national television and revealing such a personal and intimate detail of her life. Once again, sexual violence has been brought to the forefront of national television and needs to be addressed. It’s disgusting and frustrating how incredibly common sexual violence/assault is. The #MeToo movement showed how many women experience sexual violence and yet we still have to fight to be heard and to not be judged. Christine Blasey Ford is a perfect example of being shamed, ridiculed and not believed after she courageously came forward with her story.

I felt compelled to write this blog post in support of Caelynn, to let her know and other women know that they are not alone. To tell your story on national television, to relive it not only while you’re telling your story, but also again when it airs, I admire you and commend you for your courage.  As I watched Caelynn reveal her story to Colton, part of me cried for her and everything she experienced, part of me was angered that this is still an issue and part of me admired the open and honest conversation that I wish I could have.

My story is also a MeToo story, my story is that I am statistic. My story is also not ready to be told. I’m not saying this to be allusive or mysterious, but because I’m still working through a lot of things. I’m okay though, I have finally told my story to my loved ones and I am getting the support I need. I’ve started therapy and I’ve made a lot of progress, but I’m not ready to expose my scars, my pain and my tribulations. There’s no roadmap on how to recover, there’s not a guidebook that tells you how to overcome such an emotional scarring event in your life. Everyone takes their own time to process and heal.

For those who have not experienced sexual violence, I ask that you don’t question or judge why it happened, rather that you support us, love us and allow us to heal at our own time and pace. For those who are victims of sexual violence, know you are not alone, that there are resources available for you and RAINN is a great resource to start at.

After I tweeted my anger and frustration over how common sexual violence is against women, I discovered and found Leah Griffin’s twitter account. For many who don’t know, she is also a survivor of sexual assault and is now a champion for rape survivors. To catch up on her work, read this article in Seattle Weekly. 

For those who want to help, there is currently a Bill in Congress right now called The Survivors Access to Supportive Care Act.

You can help us and other survivors by calling your Representatives and Senators and urge them to pass SB3203 and HR6387 (these are the Bill numbers The Survivors Access to Supportive Care Act).

Thank you for reading this.

Lively Ambassador

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I am really excited to announce that I am a WearLively ambassador! I have never felt more proud or excited to be part of an amazing group of people. This is an incredible company that has

Our goal as a brand is to empower women with images that embrace body positivity. We want our girls to come to the site and feel amazing, feel included in our conversation, feel inspired to continue doing the things they love to do.

–  Michelle Cordeiro Grant (hypebae)

WearLively was founded by a former Victoria Secret employee Michelle Corderio Grant. Her mission is to be inclusive to all women, all sizes and walks of life. This is completely refreshing and amazing. WearLively is a company that is run by women for women. Part of their mission is to empower women and that is something every woman can get behind.

Additionally, their products are free from animal testing. I have been slowly transitioning all my products to make sure they are cruelty free and I’m really proud and excited to own their newest fragrence Jasmine Sea Sun.

As an Ambassador I help promote their products, get first look at new products and help them with new ideas.  I’m proud to be a Lively Ambassador and if you go check out their website and decide you want to purchase anything you can use my code for a $10 off discount. My code is AMB-aseattlefoodie or click here to head to the website.

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Martin Luther King Jr.

Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day!

Today is an important day for many reasons. For the last few years, racial tensions in U.S. have heightened. Almost weekly we read different incidents where cops are being called on black people for the most mundane issues. It shows that there are still a lot more work that needs to be addressed and worked towards if there’s ever going to be any sort of civility towards each other.

For people who are not black, being an educated ally is important. Understanding the history of racial tensions between black people and white people is vital to being an ally. Additionally, as there are new “hidden” barriers that black people face, it is important to understand and recognize these barriers.

As someone who wants to be an ally, I’ve taken it upon myself to become as educated as possible. Below are a lists of different books and podcasts that can help you become a better ally and supporter to black people. I’d love to know if there are any other books or podcasts so if you have any suggestions please let me know! And for a little humor, scroll all the way down to hear a segment by Michael Che.



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Currently listening to: Podcast Edition

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If you follow me on twitter you know I’ve finally entered the foray of online dating. It’s been interesting to say the least. I’ve had quite a few guys send me messages that are eyebrow raising. Many of them I have screenshots of and sent them around to friends and they garnered quite a lot of chuckles (but due to the respect of these men, I will not be posting them on here, as much as I would love to).

However, I’ve felt quite exhausted with all of it and decided, after only being on it for a few weeks, that I needed to take a break. So I’ve placed my profiles on hold and am instead diving into the world of podcasts and finding new ones I can now spend my time on instead of endless swiping.

The first podcast that I have listened to, thanks to my fellow FA and soul dating sister Jeanette,  is u up?

U, up? is by Betches Media and is such a funny and honest podcast. Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid talk about the ins and outs of dating, online dating and give brutally honest dating advice. It’s funny and amusing but also very interesting. The episode I started with was the one with the co-founder of Hinge on it. This episodes talked about different statistics (based on Hinge users). Another episode talks about why millennials have less sex. They bring on a variety of different people and talks about a variety of different topics.

As someone who hasn’t been able to put their dating experience into words, this podcast does it all. If you’re dating, trying to date or just fascinated with the current dating culture, I suggest you listen to this podcast.

I give it a 4/5 because sometimes they ramble too much and their episodes tend to be on the longer side.

4 Star

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Recipe: Blueberry Muffins

It’s January hibernating time and boy have I been hibernating. I find I save a lot more money during the winter because I rarely leave my house. I like to be warm and cozy and my bed fulfills both of these. Last week I was sitting reserve and waiting to be called when I got this craving for Blueberry Muffins.

I changed the recipe a bit, but I got the recipe from King Flour.

Time: 30 minutes // Makes: 12 Muffins

Ingredients:

  • 1/2 Cup (8 tablespoons) of room temperature butter
  • 1 cup sugar
  • 2 teaspoons baking powder
  • 2 large eggs
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 2 cups unbleached flour
  • 1/2 cup of milk
  • 2 1/2 cups of blueberries
  • (the recipe calls for 1/4 cup of sugar for the topping but I did not add sugar to mine)
  • 12 cup muffin tin

Pre-baking:

  1. Pre-heat oven to 375 degrees
  2. Line muffin tin with paper

Baking Instructions:

  1. Beat together butter and sugar until well combined (I used a handheld mixer))
  2. Add the eggs one at a time (I used a handheld mixer) until light and fluffy and then add the next egg
  3. Mix milk and vanilla together in a separate bowl
  4. Mix flour and salt together in a separate bowl
  5. Sift baking powder into flour and salt mixture
  6. Add flour and milk alternatively to the butter, eggs and sugar combination stirring until fully mixed
  7. Mash 1/2 cup of berries
  8. Add mashed berries and whole full berries to the batter
  9. Scoop the batter into muffin tin (only filling 1/4 cup)
  10. Bake for 30 minutes – or wait until golden brown and toothpick comes out clean from the center of the muffin
  11. Remove muffins from the oven and move them to rack to cool

AND ENJOY!!

Here’s a picture of the muffins I baked last weekend. Please let me know if you try them out and if you have any suggestions or changes!

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Being a Flight Attendant: Reserve Life

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I get a lot of questions about my job, naturally as this job is very different then what other people are used to. I thought I’d do a quick blog post about what life is like as a reserve flight attendant.

Something that I think really boggles people’s minds is reserve life. For a normal desk job, if you call out sick, the company continues to spin its wheel and you come back to work when you get better and it is all good. For an airline, if a flight attendant calls out sick, then that flight cannot go. The reason is, the FAA requires 1 flight attendant for every 50 seats. Most airlines have it down to the minimum flight attendants so if one calls out they need another one to work that flight or else they have to cancel. Introducing your reserve flight attendants.

Reserves are flight attendants who just sit by and hangout and wait to be called. It’s literally a game of, do I go or do I stay?  I’m currently a reserve flight attendant but it varies per airline. For my airline it’s based on seniority so because I’m pretty junior I’m on reserve until more flight attendants are hired below me.

As a reserve flight attendant I do not have a set schedule or know where I am going. Instead, I know I am on call 18 days out of the month (with 12 days off). Most of the time I am notified the night before my reserve block starts, but sometimes I have a 2 hour call out which means I have 2 hours to get to the airport to work a flight. While on reserve I literally have my suitcase packed in my trunk and I always carry my uniform around with me if I go hangout with friends.

Reserve life can be exciting because you can go to some awesome places. On reserve I’ve gone to Costa Rica, Hawaii, Cabo, New York, Boston, etc. But sometimes it’s tiring because you just want to be home and inevitably the days that you want to be home are the days that you get assigned a trip. Reserves are pretty much required for the airline industry to function but it’s definitely a tough part of the job that makes you appreciate having a set schedule.

While reserve life is hard, I do really love my job and really don’t mind it. I hope this post gives you a little more insight to the airline world and if you have any questions, feel free to ask!

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How to Save for a Trip

Hi, if this is your first time reading my blog, thanks and I hope you stay!

Today’s blog post is going to be about saving money for a trip or life!

If you’re like me, you’ve got a lot of bills: car payment, car insurance, student loans, rent, cell phone bill, etc etc. These things add up and can seem like it’s impossible to save for that dream trip you’re dying to take. It’s really difficult to save and traveling is expensive. Hotel costs, food, souvenirs, tours are just a few things we anticipate paying for when we’re on a trip. I want to help alleviate that stress so I’ve written about a few different ways I save so I can take the trips I want.

*Disclaimer: I am not a financial advisor so please make sure to do research and choose the best option for you.

1. Qapital App

I found the Qapital app while browsing NerdWallet two years ago and I’ve been using it ever since. This app allows you to determine how much you save and what kind of savings you want. Once you connect your bank account to it, you can set up how much you want it to save. The reason I like this app is it creates a separate savings account that I can’t see when I log into my bank account. It’s only accessible via the app so I often forget I have it, but it’s very easy to transfer money from the app to your bank account. However this savings account does not accrue interest.  There’s a few different settings that they have so I’ll just write the ones I use.

The first is the round-up savings. Every time I use my debit card, or pay a bill, it will round up to the next dollar and withdraw the change into my savings account. (Example: I spent $3.50 on coffee, it’ll withdraw $0.50 and put it into a savings account for me).

The second setting I use is 54 deposits. This starts out withdrawing $1 on the first week, $2 on the second week, $3 the third week and so forth. You do not however receive any interest on your savings.

There are many other settings you can choose to increase your savings and different goals you can create. You can sign up here.

2. Acorns App

I really like this app because it’s very basic to use and allows you to invest easily. This uses a similar model that Qapital uses by rounding up and taking the change and saves it for you. Th only difference is this app invests the money rather than putting it into a savings account.

This does come with a monthly fee of $1 (or $2/$3 if you want more features). I honestly don’t know more about this app except that it takes my money and invests it, I watch it grow and can withdraw it pretty easily.

3. Save your tax return

This is probably something you hear from your banker or financial advisor (if you have one) but saving your tax return and investing it can help you in the long run. Every year I take my tax return and place it in a CD for 12 months. This way, I can’t spend the money, and I’ll be penalized if I try and withdraw it early. By placing it in a CD, I’m also allowing it to be invested. After the CD matures, I only withdraw the money that was earned on it and keep the initial tax return in the CD. I use Marcus by Goldman Sachs for my CDS.

4. Recurring Savings Deposits

This is something else I do that has been really helpful. Through my payroll department, I’m able to have a recurring deposits withdrawn from my paycheck before it comes to my checking account. If you are able to do this at your company, I suggest you enroll in this. For me, this means I am able to put money aside every month without having to do it myself. These savings are is also not connected to my daily bank account but is easily accessible to transfer money to and from. For me, the best way I’m able to save is if I don’t see the money. I use Barclays Online Banking for this savings account.

Hope this was helpful and not too boring. Do you have any savings tips that you think are really useful? Let me know in the comments below.

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Blogger Recognition Award

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First off, I want to say, the blogging community is an amazing community. I have met some of the most supportive and nice people through blogging and I am honored to be nominated by Grace from Prayers and Passports.

Let’s get started by first covering the rules surrounding this award as I will be nominating some other wonderful bloggers!

  1. Thank the blogger for nominating you and link to their blog
  2. Write a blog post on your website showing the award
  3. Describe the story of why you started your blog
  4. Write two pieces of advice you have for new bloggers
  5. Nominate more bloggers
  6. Notify nominees of their nomination

Why I Started My Blog

When I first decided to jump back into the foray of blogging, I was nervous about being “another travel blogger”. I thought that it would be hard to find my niche, but rather than limiting myself to just blogging about travel, I decided I was going to blog about my life. About what I am going through and my life as a flight attendant.

Being a flight attendant isn’t an easy job, it sounds glamorous, but like any jobs it has its up and downs. This is my way of showcasing that and helping educate others on what it is like to be a flight attendant in hopes you will treat us with a little more kindness. So for everyone who has read my blog, thanks so much!

Two Pieces of Advice for New Bloggers

My first piece of advice is blog about what you know and love. This makes it easy to blog. My second piece of advice is don’t try and extend yourself too early. Create quality over quantity!

My Nominations

I’m nominating

My Soul Travels

Plating Pixels

Rock A Little Travel

Seersucker Optional

Jess // The Crown Wings